People will let you down. Maybe not everyone you know but most people at some point will let you down. YOU will let people down, without a doubt you will let people down. This is as inevitable as death itself. We were created imperfect and imperfection is really good at letting people down.
Sometimes the people we love the very most let us down more than we ever could have imagined. How do you forgive when the let down leads to extreme hurt? This is such a difficult question for me. I’m getting much older and as one might imagine. I’ve been hurt and I’ve been cause of hurt. Neither feels very good.
I find that I often sit in the space of the one feeling hurt. I don’t like to sit in the space of the one who has caused the hurt, it's difficult to admit sometimes that we are the cause of something. Blame is so much easier. It reminds me of what Jesus said in John 8:7 “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone “ I have no right. If I have said my sincere apology and they still do not feel like forgiveness is the answer or love is the answer, I have to accept it. I have no choice. That’s really hard.
I have been really hurt and have hurt someone I love. I sincerely apologized and there was no seeing eye to eye. That’s how wars happen among brothers. The Civil War. It’s so very frustrating too because all one wants is for the other person to acknowledge one’s said point of view but the other has a completely separate point of view and neither seems willing to bend.
The most simple piece of advice also found in scripture seems almost impossible to accomplish when it should be so easy. Also found in John 13:34-35 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” John is pretty awesome book by the way.
Speaking from experience, with time (some) of the initial sting goes away. Time and space help the healing process in regard to all sorts of loss. It’s true. My feelings today are far less intense as they were years ago. In fact some of the details have faded away and sometimes I can’t even remember all the details of what tore us completely apart.
Just LOVE. If it could be that easy.